Sick and tired of dealing with your loved one's borderline personality disorder? Confused and frustrated? Drop everything you're doing now and read every word on this page... the next few minutes could be very important for you...
From: David Oliver
Mental Health Advocate, Borderline Expert and Researcher; Author and Creator of the Borderline Support Pack
Dear Fellow Borderline Supporter,
Imagine you could end all the pain, confusion and frustration that borderline personality disorder is causing you and your family. Imagine fewer fights. Fewer arguments. Fewer ups and downs. Less of not understanding the borderline personality disorder that's slowly taking over and interfering with your life.
Suicide is one of the most serious and frightening issues you will face when you have a loved one with borderline personality disorder. Nearly 25 percent of people with borderline personality disorder actually try to commit suicide. That's 25 out of every 100 people who have borderline personality disorder.
When you consider that even more people think about committing suicide but, thankfully, never try, that number can increase to an astonishing 50 out of every 100! Now imagine not having to worry that your loved one is going to try to kill themselves and never having to worry about coming home to find your loved one gone forever.
Imagine finally having peace back in your life because you and your loved one finally understand how to cope and deal with this devastating disorder.
Hi, my name is David Oliver. I am one of the nation's leading experts on helping Borderline Supporters.
Before I tell you how to start changing your situation with your loved one's borderline personality disorder, let me tell you about myself.
Six years ago, I was standing in your shoes...
I was typing the phrase "borderline personality disorder" and variations of those words into every search engine on the Internet just hoping to find a magic solution that would end my nightmare.
I read through website after website trying to track down answers... I searched for reasons, guidance, even just someone to talk to. All I found was the same old rehashed information on borderline personality disorder. Nothing useful, and certainly nothing that told me how to help a loved one cope with borderline. Nothing told me how to cope and deal with a loved one’s borderline personality disorder and you and I both know, that is NOT easy right?
It was incredibly frustrating. I was literally at the end of my rope because every day seemed like one long, never-ending bad dream that I couldn't wake up from.
You see, my mother, who has had mental illness since she was born, was in the middle of a major borderline episode...
It was probably the worst she had ever experienced. And I had stepped in to be her primary supporter. All the days of abuse, yelling, and screaming had taken their toll on me (the same feeling you've probably had with taking care of your loved one - the stress is incredible, isn't it?).
The Internet was just the start for me. I devoured everything I could find at the library, including boring, technical medical journals and dozens of books. I tracked down every borderline expert I could find, in all disciplines. from physician, to therapist, to pharmacist and beyond.
And during my 9-month journey... I went from knowing nothing about her disorder and having NO idea how to help her... to becoming an expert who has been able to help her stay stable.
And after my months of research, I can tell you one thing for sure: if you're Supporting Someone with borderline personality disorder, you have a better chance of winning one of those multi-state lotteries than of finding the information you need to help your loved one SUCCESSFULLY cope with borderline.
Because nearly all of the information that's available is produced by doctors and professors who have a clinical relationship with borderline personality disorder - NOT by people who are living with the disorder day in and day out.
But you don't need cold, clinical theories from physicians who spent a few hours a day tending patients with borderline. You need coping strategies that work... from people who walked in your shoes day in, day out.
If you don't get your hands on these coping strategies - and soon - your loved one may end up permanently unemployed, addicted to drugs, sexually promiscuous, homeless, and even suicidal.
Let me tell you how my family has been affected by my mom's long struggle with borderline personality disorder.
My mother has had four major episodes in her life. Those are the kind of episodes where she has to be hospitalized for more than 10 days. Based on my calculations, that was one major episode every 7 years or so.
This time, it was much, much worse...
My mother had turned into a completely different person. She wouldn't eat or sleep. She only yelled, screamed, and said extremely hurtful things to my father and me. Since my brother doesn't like to deal with the problem, he never made himself available, if you know what I mean.
For about a month, my mom was on a rampage. She missed many days of work and finally stopped going altogether. Even then, she would call her job at least 6 to 8 times a day. She would also call family members and friends just to say mean things to them. I can't tell you how many people she alienated in just that short period of time.
If that wasn't bad enough, my mom then started to make things up. She would tell people that I said this or that my dad had said that when in reality, we hadn't said anything of the sort. She'd tell me that other people had told her things which I found out was completely not true.
It was so bad that we couldn't tell when she was telling the truth or telling a lie.
I finally decided that she needed to go to the hospital...
Of course, she refused. She screamed that she was fine. She told me that I needed to go to the hospital, not her! She insisted that all of her "supporters" said she would get better at home. She called me a "terrible son" and demanded that I "get out" of her life "forever."
And that was just the beginning. She continued
to swear at me and to throw everything she could
get her hands on at me. She repeatedly demanded
that I leave the house and leave her alone
because she never wanted to see me again.
Initially, I thought about following my brother's lead and pretending that there was no problem. I could just close my eyes, cross my fingers, and hope that everything would work itself out.
But I couldn't do that. You see, my dad has quite a few health problems, including congestive heart failure, diabetes, high blood pressure, etc. I was worried that my mom's screaming would cause him to eventually have a heart attack.
So, to protect my dad's health I spoke to my mom every morning so that she could scream and yell at me for at least an hour. EVERY DAY for 4 straight weeks she screamed at me every morning and again when I called her at night. For about two hours a day, I let her scream at me so I could divert at least some of her anger away from my dad.
After searching for awhile, I was able to find the name of my mom's doctor. We'd never talked to him or about him, so we'd also never learned his name or his number (which was one of my family's big mistakes).
When I did talk to the doctor, he didn't have a clue. He didn't know that my mom was "that bad." He said that he was trying to regulate her medicine, and I asked, "How are you going to know when her medicine was right?"
Do you know what he said?
He said: "I'll ask her."
Can you imagine asking a mentally ill person to determine whether or not their medication is effective? He was a moron!
I asked him many other questions, too, but he didn't have any answers. He couldn't give me one single answer!
He made me so angry that I finally said, "Let's start over again and let me ask you some warm up questions like 'What's your name?' and 'What state do you live in?'"
Of course that made him mad, but it also made me realize that he was part of the problem, NOT part of the solution. I could never rely on him. I went back to my research.
It was the toughest nine months of my life, but it was worth it. Here's how all my dedicated research has helped my mom.
Mom BEFORE I did my research:
Mom AFTER I did my research:
Admits she has the disorder
The difference this information has made in my life and in my family's life has been amazing. Helping my mom is so much easier these days. I only wish I had found all of this out years ago...
I know how much pain can result from not having answers or solutions and how much damage borderline personality disorder can do to a family that's never had the right information before.
With the information I’d learned I realized I held the proverbial keys to the kingdom... I knew I would be able to help many other families overcome, and even prevent, the tremendous obstacles my mother has had to conquer.
I decided to put it together into a complete package ... every technique, every secret, to come and deal with your loved one’s borderline personality disorder.
Introducing… The Borderline Support Pack –Learning to better cope and deal with your loved one’s borderline personality disorder!
This package comes with SIX powerful components.
The foundation of the Borderline Support Pack is a huge easy to read guide. In this guide you’re going to discover tips, tricks, strategies and techniques that you will not easily find anywhere else. Not from support groups. Not from doctors. Not from therapists.
These are hard core techniques I have discovered and many I have personally had to use. To date, there is no cure for borderline personality disorder. However, with the right information and support your loved ones will not only survive but thrive thanks to the information in this first component, including:
|Top 3 Strategies for Dealing with Your Loved One's Mood Swings|
|The most important thing your loved one needs to do to regain control over BPD … and the type of support they need to be successful|
|The real difference between “normal” people and people with BPD … and how understanding this difference will simplify your life|
|The shift you should make in thinking about your loved one’s BPD if you don’t want to become negative and cynical|
|What you can do for yourself to protect yourself against your loved one's acting-out behaviors|
|What you and the rest of your family must learn to do to effectively support your loved one with BPD - even from a distance|
|The courtesy rule that will protect your relationships with your loved one … and nip problems in the bud|
|One of the most frustrating things to understand when you’re first dealing with BPD … and the truth you must accept to make your loved one’s diagnosis easier to accept|
|The surprising reason that a support group might be harmful to you as a supporter … and what to look for if you want to participate|
|The shocking truth about the borderline personality disorder diagnosis|
|The longest you should tolerate intolerable behavior and what you can do about it|
|The normal reaction that supporters may have to their loved ones’ behavior … and why this response can actually prevent you from helping your loved one when they need it most|
|The thing that all super-successful borderline survivors seem to have in common|
|What your loved one will be tempted not to tell you that they are "cutting", "self mutilating" or contemplating suicide … and what to do today to ensure you get the information you need to help them|
|Criteria that your loved one needs to meet to be able to hold down a full-time job and when a loved one should NOT work at all.|
|How being successful in dealing with borderline personality disorder can work against you (this one will surprise you)|
|WARNING! Want to protect your loved one if you have to call 911, the police or emergency services in a crisis? This tip could save their life|
|How to benefit from your loved one’s periods of anger, violence, cutting, or other dramatic "events" … so these events actually become a way to help your loved one|
|The surprising way to reduce the stress of supporting someone with BPD … and how this tool can help your loved one remain focused|
|The type of irrational thinking to address immediately if you want to substantially reduce the pressure that your loved one’s borderline personality disorder puts on your relationship|
|The surprising thing to bring someone with borderline personality disorder out of an "episode" without medical intervention|
|Why you can’t depend on a therapist or doctor to teach you how to effectively cope with your loved one’s BPD … and how to learn the things you must learn as quickly as possible|
|Why blindly following doctor’s orders can be a mistake … and what you should be doing as a supporter to ensure the best medical care for your loved one|
|The simple legal technique that will protect your home from the effects of your loved one’s spending sprees during episodes or periods of destructive impulsivity|
|Why getting treatment for your loved one is only half the battle … and what your family must be prepared to do if you want to help your loved one maximize their success in coping with BPD|
|Why you might need to threaten your loved one’s doctor and therapist … and what to say to ensure they get the help they need|
|The common misconception that may place you in danger (this is probably the single most important – and hardest – thing to accept if you’re supporting someone with BPD)|
|The right and wrong things to say when your loved one is in an episode of rage|
|Key signs that your loved one is getting poor medical treatment … and what to look for instead|
|And Much, Much More!|
One of the biggest problems for most supporters is that their loved one's doctors have never explained what to expect with borderline personality disorder so they never got a chance to have their medical questions answered or to discuss medications.
Because I am a supporter myself and because so many have talked to me about this problem, I went out and found one of the top doctors on borderline personality disorder and someone who could answer difficult and complicated questions in a clear and concise manner. That person was Daniel Z. Lieberman, M.D.
Dr. Lieberman is an associate professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, Director of the Clinical Psychiatric Research Center, and Chairman of the Institutional Review Board at George Washington University in Washington, DC, USA.
During this in-depth interview, Dr. Lieberman shares his professional insights into borderline personality disorder and provides a host of useful information, including:
Remember, unlike Dr. Lieberman who also has devoted his life to the study and treatment of borderline personality disorder-most psychiatrists out there only devoted a fraction of their time and studies to this potentially deadly disorder. Get the facts from one of the world's leading borderline personality disorder experts in easy-to-understand terms with this in-depth interview only available on Component #2 of my Borderline Support Pack.
Michele Soloway is one of the most successful people I know with borderline personality disorder but it was a long, tough road to get there. Get personal information about borderline personality disorder and valuable tips and tricks that will help any supporter of a loved one with borderline personality disorder!
Michele had a very hard life struggling with undiagnosed borderline personality disorder until she was in her 40's. Along the way, she faced many of the obstacles and problems suffered by those with undiagnosed and/or unsupported borderline personality disorder, including:
For years, Michele had everything going against her and was a very real but sad example of the "throwaway life". Her life was also an example of what can happen to a person before they are diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and put on the right treatment.
About 5 years ago, she began to learn what it would take to be really successful with borderline personality disorder.
Today she is successful, stable, and now runs her own business. She has managed to restore relations with her family and is now happily married-to her husband who also has borderline personality disorder himself.
Michele is now both a borderline survivor AND a successful borderline supporter.
In Component #3 of the Borderline Support Pack, Michele reveals her biggest secrets to success and how she learned how to not only survive-but thrive-with borderline personality disorder!
Death is always a very real threat when dealing with borderline personality disorder and Component #4 of the Borderline Support Pack will help you avoid making the 10 simple mistakes that can lead to setbacks, mood swings, and in extreme cases even death.
Sadly, nearly 1 in 4 borderline personality disorder sufferers will kill themselves and more than half will attempt suicide at least once-and the biggest cause is one of the 10 simple but deadly mistakes made by supporters!
One of the 10 Deadly Mistakes is not knowing when your loved one has stopped taking their medication-and Component #4 of the Borderline Support Pack will help you avoid this and the other 9 deadly mistakes.
By learning about these mistakes, you can correct them and ultimately help your loved one get their borderline personality disorder under control so they not only survive-but thrive-with borderline personality disorder!
I know that you want to stay on top of what's going on with borderline personality disorder but you just can't do this by reading books because today's book was last year's information! Plus, it's hard enough supporting a loved one with borderline personality disorder let alone combing through the Internet late looking for the latest-and most reliable-information on borderline personality disorder…
I subscribe to several reliable services that send me accurate and up-to-date information on borderline personality disorder daily. Every day I personally go through the news, analyze it and comment on it. I then have another person review my work to make sure that everything is concise and easy-to-understand and use.
I take all the news and put it into Borderline Breaking News, a weekly publication delivered via email that lists all the borderline news for the week-including every discovery, research finding, and bit of useful information.
Borderline Breaking News is designed so that you can quickly scan the headlines and decide what articles you want to review. This is the best way to keep up-to-date with a field that is constantly changing and evolving.
You get FREE Access to all updates... FOR LIFE!
This program is by far the most effective way to learn how to cope and deal with your loved one's borderline personality disorder. However, there is always the chance that there will be new breakthroughs in medicine, treatments, or the science behind borderline personality disorder. When this happens, I will update and refine what I have learned to make this program even better.
In fact, in the near future I plan on offering this program only as part of a membership package including several exclusive bonus reports and special updates at a substantially higher price. Order now and you will get all future bonus reports for FREE for life! When a new, updated edition of the Borderline Support Pack, is released, you get it for FREE! It's easy - I will send you instant download instructions so you can stay totally up to date on the latest borderline personality disorder breakthroughs.
The total retail value of this package is $302.00 and this package sells as high as $79.95 which is a great deal. However if you order by midnight on Tuesday, September 23, 2014 , you can get it for 50% off or only $39.95.
Summary of the entire Borderline Support Pack if you order now:
|Secrets to Helping and Supporting a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder||$67.00|
|Interview with Daniel Z. Lieberman, M.D. and Transcript||$60.00|
|Borderline Success Story: Interview With Michele Soloway and Transcript||$40.00|
|10 Deadly Mistakes Supporters Make When Helping a Loved One With Borderline Personality Disorder||$30.00|
|Subscription to "Borderline Breaking News"||$30.00|
|Lifetime Free Updates||$75.00|
|Your Investment Before Midnight Tuesday, September 23, 2014||$79.95
If you are worried about whether or not I can help you, don't be. All I ask if that you go through my materials. If, after going through my Borderline Support Pack, you decide it can’t help you with your loved one, I’ll give you your money back… ALL OF IT, no questions asked. Promptly and courteously. I am so positive that you’ll love this material and it will start helping you soon that I am willing to take all the risk myself. So one more thing, if you do ask for a refund, you get to keep EVERYTHING just for giving my material a chance. So you can only come out ahead. That’s how confident I am.
Whether you realize it or not, borderline personality disorder is a very costly disorder. If you consider the cost of medicine, doctor and therapist visits, and any other medical expenses, that alone is enough to cause a drain on your finances. If you add the less obvious costs of borderline personality disorder to that amount - the loss of income when you have to miss work to take your loved one to the doctor, the fees they incur by forgetting to pay their bills on time, and the impulse purchases that you just can't afford - the true cost of borderline personality disorder becomes staggering.
Let's assume that your time is worth $10 an hour (and I'm sure it's really worth even more than that). Think about how much time you have spent researching and talking about and worrying about your loved one's borderline personality disorder. Think about the time it's taken you to adjust to the changes in schedule and your loved one's mood swings and everything that comes with supporting them. How much has borderline personality disorder really cost you?
Seriously, I don’t want you to decide now. I want you to get my package and go through it. I want you to try out the techniques. I want you to see how soon you start feeling better and in control. You’re going to be amazed.
But left untreated, borderline personality disorder only gets worse with time—NEVER better! It doesn’t fix itself. You may want to believe like my father did on so many occasions that it would work itself out. It never does. You may want to believe it’s not that bad. You may want to keep searching for more and more answers. There is no time to delay.
Borderline personality disorder is what is known as a “Progressively Degenerative” disorder which is just another way of saying that if left untreated, borderline personality disorder problems INTENSIFY in both SEVERITY and FREQUENCY.
When people who have borderline personality disorder are not in treatment and go into “episodes” they need someone to help them. They need someone to get them on the right track. You need The Borderline Support Pack.
Left untreated, borderline personality disorder leads to a very destructive and predictable downward spiral that advances in stages that include one or more of the following:
What may only be fighting and arguing today can and will eventually spiral into life-destroying consequences—but it doesn’t have to be this way.
Since I have been doing this, I have talked to so many people whose loved one killed themselves and they thought it could never happen to them. It does and it could.
Although scientists have yet to identify any true cure for borderline personality disorder, it is possible to help someone with borderline personality disorder get on the right track of having a happy, successful and productive life.
You may think that your situation is hopeless. You may think that there is nothing that can really be learned or be done. I am here to tell you, take it from someone who did think like that, you can turn it all around.
Take action now and place your order right away for the Borderline Support Pack.
To Living the Life You and Your Loved One Truly Want and Deserve,
Mental health advocate, Borderline Expert and Researcher
Author and Creator of The Borderline Support Pack
P.S. - Don't forget, this is an absolutely no risk purchase. You're covered by my rock solid guarantee, so you get to try the whole system out for 60 days, and get a full refund at any time if it doesn't help. Try it out, see if it works for you, and if you're not happy, you'll get a prompt and full refund...
P.P.S. - You really are standing at a crossroads - the way your life unfolds from here is completely up to you. But think about this... you've struggled long and hard with your loved one’s borderline personality disorder, and right now you're just minutes from finally turning the situation around… helping yourself AND helping your loved one.
P.P.P.S. - Remember you can order this entire pack for 50% off or only $39.95 when you order before midnight Tuesday, September 23, 2014
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